In a world filled with situationships, avoidant partners, and emotional unavailability, Benny Blanco's relationship with Selena Gomez has captivated public attention. Everywhere you look—Instagram, TikTok, news outlets—people are talking about this couple. But what makes their relationship so fascinating?

I believe we often overcomplicate relationships when the foundations of a healthy partnership are actually quite simple. As someone who has navigated my own relationship journey from anxious attachment to security, I've observed three key reasons why Benny Blanco stands out as an exceptional partner.

1. He Understands the Importance of Giving

The first thing that makes Benny remarkable is his understanding that relationships require giving. When he talks about Selena, he places her on a pedestal. For someone who has never felt like a priority, never felt like they matter or been fully supported, this kind of treatment feels like heaven.

Benny clearly recognizes that building a beautiful relationship means creating a partnership—something you build together with equal give and take. You can see it in how he cares for Selena's needs, in the considerate way he speaks about her, and in his gentlemanly, supportive behavior when they're together.

This stands in stark contrast to the reality of many modern relationships. Unfortunately, many people approach relationships with a selfish mindset, asking "What can I get out of this?" rather than "What can I contribute?" They use partners for physical gratification, emotional support, or energy without offering much in return.

What's noteworthy about Benny's giving nature is how effortless it appears. He's calm and natural when expressing his care and consideration. That's because giving in a relationship shouldn't be draining—it's actually more exhausting to hold back, to resist emotional connection, and to engage in push-pull dynamics.

2. He Creates a Safe Environment

The second quality that makes Benny an exceptional partner is his ability to create emotional safety. In one of his videos, he says something profound: "Men need to be quiet. Men need to shut up and listen to their partner because your partner's going to tell you everything they need."

Sometimes these needs are communicated subtly, other times bluntly. But if your partner is frequently angry or upset, you've waited too long—they've likely expressed their needs multiple times already.

Benny anticipates Selena's needs by paying attention and intuitively reading what she requires. He supports her emotionally and considers her feelings, creating a safe environment where she can flourish.

This safe environment is crucial because your relationship is like a home—both physically and emotionally. It's the space you build together, and it needs to feel secure for both parties to thrive.

3. He Prioritizes Personal Growth

Perhaps most importantly, Benny works on himself. He goes to therapy, he's self-aware, and he's emotionally intelligent. Through therapy and personal development, he's gained a deeper understanding of himself—his flaws, his trauma, and his childhood experiences.

This commitment to growth is the foundation of everything else. You simply cannot create a safe environment or give generously in a relationship if you haven't addressed your own issues. It's like building a house on an unstable foundation—eventually, everything will collapse.

When you work on yourself, you become the solid concrete foundation upon which a healthy relationship can be built. This is where it all starts.

The Reality of Healthy Relationships

This doesn't mean Benny and Selena never have disagreements or difficult moments. Every relationship has triggers, arguments, ups, and downs. But with these three solid core principles in place, I can confidently say they likely have a healthy dynamic overall.

Healthy relationships don't have extreme highs and lows. They may experience occasional triggers, but they work through challenges together effectively because they've established these fundamental practices.

To the women reading this: you deserve a partner who gives generously, creates emotional safety, and continuously works on themselves. To the men: take note of what true partnership looks like.

We don't need to overcomplicate relationships. With these three principles—giving, creating safety, and personal growth—we can all build healthier, more fulfilling connections.